There's really no reason to listen to my advice. So, just remember that as you read this.
Within 5 years of getting married (way to young and way to naive and stupid) I started having serious doubts. When those doubts translated into not wanting to attend church, it became such a wedge in our marriage that I caved in and said, "I'll stick with it for the kids."
Well, 25 years, two bishoprics, two high councils and 20+ years of scouting later my children are all adults and this past summer I was going insane and just quit. It still causes friction in our marriage, but next month is our 30th anniversary, so we must at least be able to stand each other. (Yes, we got married on December 30th in Idaho Falls and that just tells you how stupid we were. The only picture we have of us at the temple on our wedding day is the typical "white cow in a blizzard" picture.)
I am trying to come to grips (through counseling) with the choices I've made and I'm not really happy that I raised my kids in the church. But, I was probably too stupid to do a very good job of it without the church. Maybe if I'd waited until I was 30 to have kids (instead of 23) I might have had some clue, but the church helped the young and stupid version of me.
My son did pretty well. We did most of his scouting experiences together and that helped. But, I think my daughters could have done better without the church. They have the typical black-and-white, my-only-purpose-in-life-is-to-be-a-wife-and-mother that he church instills in the YW program. Neither is married yet, but at 28 years old my oldest is adrift in life because it didn't follow the plan of getting married as soon as possible. In that respect, the church set her up for disappointment and probably failure. Within a week of coming home from her mission she said, "I don't want to be an adult and make decisions. I just want to go back on my mission where it is all laid out for you and you know what to do every day." I think if you asked her (6 years later) she would say the same thing. Sadly.
But, if I've learned nothing else, I've learned that every family and situation is different and you can listen to our stories, but you need to make your own decisions. (You probably know that and I don't mean to sound condescending, just stating the obvious.)