After much, umm discussion, I said "You really don't know me very well, do you." Apparently, that really hurt him and now, he is very angry with me...So he took it in a way that I did not mean it, and when I tried to explain what I meant it seemed to make matters worse.
You are not responsible for his anger. Nor are you responsible for his inability to understand your feelings and communicate with you. You are responsible for handling your feelings and how you treat others, not how they react.
Please tell me if what I said is wrong?
You did not say anything wrong. You own your emotions and have a right to express them.
Am I wrong in buying a battery for my daughter?
I am at a total loss.
Every time we argue, it has stemmed from something to do with my daughter. Am I being too over-protective? I am not adverse to criticism, so if I am wrong in this, I am okay with that. Please, give me some advice!
Your daughter is an adult and the relationship you and your husband have with her should be as parent to adult child. The training wheels are off, but family still supports family. C.V. Rick has it exactly right.
If the only thing you argue over is your daughter, it might help to have a honest discussion of what your husband is afraid of. He seems way too attached to his daughter living up to his standards of independence. And anger is not a healthy response to a parent's disappointment in an adult chiild's decisions. Perhaps he is upset with you because you are not following his script for how everyone in his family should behave, and not joining him in his strategy to "teach your daughter a lesson."
Which brings up the last point. Why are you feeling guilty for doing the right thing? Why must you justify rational behavior to him? What makes his judgment so superior to yours that you must question yourself if he disagrees?
I suggest that you begin to put starch in his underwear.