Sister Mary Lisa wrote:
Susan D. wrote:
Sister Mary Lisa wrote:
Susan, where ya been?
Oh, and surprisingly to myself, I closed my marriage back up....that ought to cause this thread to only get longer huh?? LOL
Did you close it back up before it ever got completely "open"? Did you try it and it wasn't what you thought? Is this something too private to share?
I brought it up on purpose so it's ok. He didn't want to be "open" himself, I had an SO for a little while (but he wanted to marry me, gah!) and I had to call it off w/him. And yeah, he knew the conditions of the whole thing before we started and I felt badly about having to break with him, but I told him my marriage was top priority and that my DH was first w/me.
I just figured out that because of a combination of many factors (not the least which is our American society) it's very difficult to follow any kind of "outside the lines" kind of sexual behavior and have what you want be understood by others (and I'm talking about people with whom you are intimately connected, not just nosy neighbors). It's hard, but I saw the wisdom of being mono even though most people are anything but! But also, sadly, many people who may think they are ready for this are not when you're in it.